Relationships in 2015 are sticky business (pun unintended). Along with the usual pitfalls and obstacles that prevent two people from maintaining a happy, committed relationship, we are now forced to deal with the many problems presented by cutting edge technology and more specifically, social media. Gone are the days in which breaking up means saying “goodbye” and moving on. Indeed, a whole new dynamic seems to be taking center stage in this age. Rather than simply moving on, most keep up with your life on social media, stay in touch, and try to keep themselves visible in your online circles in order to do the same.
With all of that being said, of course many feel the need to utilize social media and usually, your own circle, in order to humiliate and degrade you in the wake of a breakup. One of the most popular methods being, revenge porn.
What is “Revenge Porn?”
According to Huffington Post, “Revenge porn refers to the practice of sharing nude photos or videos of a person in order to exact revenge against or otherwise humiliate that person.” Though tempting and likely very simple to carry out for most, this is not your best option following a relationship gone wrong. So, before you hit “upload,” please consider my..
Top 5 Reasons to Never Make Revenge Porn
5. Karma– This one is self explanatory…or at least it should be. “You get what you give,” “You reap what you sow”…you get the gist of it. Every action has a reaction so if you wouldn’t want your own, or someone close to you naked photos plastered all over the Internet, perhaps you shouldn’t put anyone else through this sort of misery.
4. More Dates– Not to mention this is the type of thing that has the tendency to backfire. After the initial shock of it all, many people will likely begin to message your Ex in an attempt to get a better look at the goods… They’ll have you to thank for that!
3. It’s Petty– Let’s think like big boys/girls for a minute…this is petty! Of course revenge feels good to most of us but do you really want to be the person known for getting so mad at exes that you literally air all of their dirty laundry online?! I strongly doubt it. Especially if you’re a male, you’ll likely have trouble attracting more women to send you those kinds of pictures/videos once women know that you could expose them at a later date…do keep that in mind.
2. Irreversible– This one is obvious…yet seldom entertained. It is human nature to experience heartbreak, betrayal, anger, etc…what is not socially acceptable is to get caught up in this emotions and cause someone lifelong damage over something that was likely not that big of a deal. Once this stuff hits the web, even if taken down, it will continue to pop up for many, many years to come. What’s more, many relationships end up working themselves out. How dumb will you feel going back to a man/woman that everyone you know has seen naked (or in action) all because you were angry and decided to post it?
1. The Law -Did I mention it’s illegal?! Well, it is! There are a number of ways you can be criminally pursued if you decide to post revenge porn. This includes hefty fines, and even potential jail time. According to a landmark case that took on the owners of a revenge porn site, these actions are illegal and will be pursued accordingly. “This behavior is not only illegal but reprehensible,” Jessica Rich, director of the FTC’s Bureau of Consumer Protection, said in a statement. “I am pleased that as a result of this settlement, the illegally collected images and information will be deleted, and this individual can never return to the so-called “revenge porn” business.” – Huffington Post
Overall, it sounds cliché, but the best revenge is really to just move on and be happy. Actions such as these make you appear bitter, immature, mean, and even unlawful. Exacting revenge in this manner may have unknown and lasting effects on many others besides the person you’re intending to hurt, including yourself!
Think before you post!
Sources: Liebelson, Dana. “U.S. Government Takes Unprecedented Action Against Revenge Porn.” The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, n.d. Web. 30 Jan. 2015.