Stalker

He’s Way Too Into You: How to Spot a Stalker Before It’s Too Late

We’ve likely all been there at some point; that awkward moment when a friend has no other choice but to yell out, “Stalker! Stage 5! Clinger”! Face it, that cute little guy/gal that you’ve been seeing is not who you thought they were. Their feelings for you are teetering on obsessive and the longer you keep feeding into it, the worse off you’ll be when you finally end it. What are the signs someone has stalker-tendencies?

I’m so glad you asked…

Won’t Accept “No” to Hanging Out…
We all enjoy a little togetherness now and again. And of course, it can be hurtful when a significant other doesn’t want to spend time with us. However, there’s a huge difference between requesting to be invited along, and demanding it. If you’re with someone who consistently does the latter, look out! Normal people have lives! No fairly well-rounded, self-respecting person feels the need to be around someone 24 hours a day. If you find yourself literally lying about your whereabouts to keep your partner from showing up, you might need security when this thing is over…

Needs to be Included in EVERYthing…

In keeping with the above sentiments, another tell-tale sign of dealing with the overbearing stalker type is their need to be included in every single aspect of your life. Not to be confused with a supportive partner who may take interest in your life or hobbies in order to further a bond. No, this is the one who joins your band even though they can’t sing, goes to games even though they hate sports, etc…only because they don’t want you to be somewhere having fun with them. Furthermore, these people are usually party-poopers and tend to ruin most outings with complaining and other shenanigans. This is typically done purposely to alienate you from your friends and force the relationship into a proverbial bubble, away from all of your loved ones, at some point.

Seems to Believe That Breaking Up = Death

Granted, we all tend to have a bit of melodramatic, hopeless romantic dwelling within us. However, for the stalker type, they really believe they’ll die without you. The thought of ever being apart from you is too much for them to bear, so they literally do everything in their power, to try to force themselves into every aspect of your life, just to make it that much harder for you to ever get rid of them. This is the type that will go visit your grandmother in a nursing home during a fight, hoping to run into you. Or the type that tries to buddy up to your co-workers and friends so they can call them whenever they can’t find you. Yes, sometimes relationships evolve like this naturally…but in this case, it will be quite clear to you if you’re paying attention. This is the kind of person who will be overly nice to anyone whom they feel might be able to help bring you guys closer…even if they secretly hate them or are totally disinterested in their life and well-being.

The Bottom Line…

Breaking up is always hard to do. Some of us take it much harder than others and sometimes we even deserve the dramatic over-reactions. On the flip side, no one deserves to literally have to switch jobs, change numbers, or even skip town to get away from someone. These are the culprits who end up on “Snapped” and you, a posthumous observer…

Venus L

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